Monday, 19 April 2010

memories and more 2

i still remember srilanka as though it was just yesterday.the memories of that beautiful place still seem so vivid.i remember for me it was love at first sight.our tour guides were just 2 rather odd looking boys picked quite randomly at the airport.the 4 wheeler was very spacious and the ride to our guest house very humid.
upon arrival at the guest house our host Mr and Mrs mendes greeted us with a wonderful traditional Buddhist welcome and some chilled king coconut water.

the following weeks spent in srilanka were awesome.we visited galle.the picturesque hill station of Kandy,ever bustling city Colombo and many of the unfortunate tsunami struck islands.
there is so much to share about that holiday,but i don't have enough words to really capture my emotions.so here i would conclude this experience with feelings of joy.nostalgia and hope that someday i could go back with family to yet another beautiful destination!

Sunday, 18 April 2010

memories and more

as we grow older life manifests and unfolds in front of us in so many different ways.we meet new people along our life journey,gather new experiences both pleasent and unpleasent.but not only do we gain but loose just as much.this is talking from personal experience though!it could be the opposite for most of you.anyway coming back to my topic in question i suddenly have been feeling quite nostalgic the past month.i guess it all started when mom and dad left back home for dubai.alone well almost{as my bro lives here in england with me}leaving me with a cold and empty feeling.even literally!the journey back from the airport was strange yet pleasent.the weeks following brought along with them different challenges and very little joys.thus making me nostalgic of the wonderful past.let me start with my teenage years.only because i remember them still very clearly.our wonderful summer holidays as a family.i remember the spontaneous decisions made on the destination of travel.mostly we would love going home to bombay.during which we would go to goa to trace back our roots!even though travel today has become convenient and even inexpensive courtesy some low cost carriers i do miss good old paolo coaches.they were not your 5 star coaches,but yet did offer that service.ofcourse for the extra rupee!mom dad annie me and anthony.the journey was exhausting.but our destination always made it worth while.we usually came across land slides,road blocks ,curfews and ofcourse the ever mighty monsoons.the people we met along on our bus ride still hold a special place in my heart.even today.on our arrival at my uncles villa we were ever so exhausted.yet not so much for a game of carrom.and ofcourse an exhilerating bike ride with my cousin on his hero honda along goas charmin paddy fields.even now sometimes i can remember closing my eyes taking in the scent of raw wet earth!the best scent ever!our nights filled with the ever so delicious goan portugese cuisine,port wine and a card game.after goa we would return home to grandma in bombay.the hustle and bustle of bombay would instantly remind us of what we were missing in tranquil goa.yet bombay has and had a charm of its own.my grandma lived in a pretty catholic colony formerly made as army barracks during the british raj to accomodate the british soldiers.post 1947 they were converted into homes.we lived in a wonderful block with wonderful neighbours.as soon as we got home i remember rushing to meet my friends in the next block.just waiting to narrate my memories.

in the following years we traveled to India ,where we took trips to kerala,and of course Jaipur since my parents hold deep sentiments towards sai baba the patron saint of Ajmer.
later in the years we traveled to Russia,Scandinavia,the Mediterranean and Srilanka.

its getting late friends but i will continue to share my memories and more after my beauty sleep.see you tomorrow morning!good night.

Monday, 12 April 2010

is beauty really skin deep?

You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her”a famous quote read by a lot of people but not really understood.so what is beauty.is it what we find visually appealing,for eg the most common conception.big beautiful eyes,a beautiful set of pristine white teeth,accompanied by a gorgeous smile,lustrous hair and not to forget a flawless complexion!these are in fact the worlds expectations from one another since times immemorial.depressing!i know.yet imperative in today's society.be it in the professional front or personal.we usually tend to blame media on a lot of our issues.but what is the media?isn't it a part of our own creation..the public or layman as we call ourselves.medias role is nothing but adhering to our needs.don't we want to see beautiful people on screen.so that we could feel good.or perhaps aspire to look like them.all right maybe that's a slight exaggeration for some of us but i have come across a lot of people who have become slaves to television and fashion magazines.lets come a little closer to home now.men and women,husbands and wives etc etc.don't we all make unnecessary demands on one another.do we actually just fall in love at first sight based on someones qualities.of course not.i do agree that to a certain level physical appeal would matter.i would be lying trough my teeth if i said no it did not.but where do we draw the line.im not tall.in fact i measure 4 feet 12 inches.im not a supermodel.i have flaws.like everyone else.having said that im sure a lot of the famously known supermodels feel the exact same way!which only goes to prove that we are all imperfect.and i think that is what makes life so interesting!i personally think perfection is boring!my husband thinks im the ugliest person ever created.he calls me a midget although midgets have smaller legs then mine!but he ends it all usually with the smartest one liner.i was just joking!well over the years ive grown accustomed to these nasty remarks and do take them as joke as he says they just are.but then its only natural to have a little doubt.isn't it.to look at yourself in the mirror when you wake up in the morning and think am i really ugly.to look for high-heels{preferably jimmy choo}on the internet.to make sure your face and skin look flawless.to wonder just why you don't look like a Hollywood or Bollywood superstar!because only then you fit in!

if you look at matrimonial ads you will often come across this famous advertisement.here is how it goes
40 plus male seeks a 20-35 female.must be of fair complexion,long black hair,must be at least 5 11 in height and must be highly qualified.and the extras now.must be able to cook and have strong family values.
now this was a typical Asian matrimonial advert.the rules though are comparably relaxed in a western matrimonial site.

im not however speaking just from a female point of view.i know that women too demand perfection from men.not as much though!

well i guess our quest for beauty will never end.whoever said beauty is skin deep definitely hasn't met my husband!

Tuesday, 6 April 2010

incredible india

lorraines truth

In conducting ourdaily affairs, we are often tempted to find safety in numbers. If we are indecisive, we side with the majority, reasoning that if so many people believe something, it must be true. But, truth is not elected democratically. In simplest terms, democracy means that the majority has a right to decide. So, democracy is nothing more than a fair system of governance in absence of a better alternative. But to think of it as a barometer of truth is a blunder. The truth is that the ‘majority’ has nothing to do with truth.so what exactly is the truth?is it what we hear or see.or perhaps what we bielieve is true in our hearts.so instead of siding with the majority and exercising too much of political correctness lets just stand for the truth!

Saturday, 27 February 2010

the good,the bad and the insane!

how can u spot an evil person.oh if i could do that just as easily as i could cook a very exotic delicious Thai green chicken curry i would probably have been a happier person !or do we all not wish that.ive grown up believing that there are only 2 kinds of people in this world.my mother would always tell me while growing up.the ones that do good deeds and the ones that commit evil acts.but here and then i met the third kind!the insane.and anti social twisted types.the ones that drive you nuts.the ones that play sinister games.that run an evil twisted show behind the scenes!these my dear friends don't live in special homes.as a matter of fact they live with you.they could be your very ordinary next door neighbors Mr and Mrs xyz,or the cashier at your local supermarket,or the boy that waits on you at your fav seafood restaurant every-time you pay a visit.or perhaps someone closer!now the trick is not in dealing with these evil insane species that plague our world .the trick is in spotting them out.heres an idea that could help?or maybe not.

now besides having a strange negative aura the evil ones have a very special physical distinction?
Here is how you spot evil in a person’s eyes. This is barring some genetic abnormality, like a clubbed foot.

Lets say that you want to know if the people you connect or in this case have to connect with are evil. There are several key indicators. If they chop you up into tiny little pieces and then eat you this is not a good sign. Before this happens, find a picture of them taken face on with them looking right into the camera. Start by looking at their left eye. Then look at their right eye. In the case of the nice person, both eyes are in the center of the eyeball and focusing right on you. In the case of the not so nice person one eye may be a bit off center and looking out to the side. In the case of the truly evil person both eyes are in the far corner of the eye looking sideways. This is called snake eyes.

so was that helpful friends?allright heres another tip.evil people ruin your plans.they wait.they stalk you.silently lurking in the dark.then when your not aware they attack.and there goes.all your wonderful plans down the gutter of ruined hopes and dreams.they are masters of great disguises.seductive ,yet ugly.someone said that the devil holds immense physical charm.but my evil ones were and are not so pretty i must say!they stink.like rotting corpses.evil people lie constantly and endlessly. Their lies and threats are obvious baloney, but they are designed to confuse you and make you doubt yourself so that you will give them power over you. This is an effective tool and has led to numerous of the most evil human beings ever grabbing immense political power over millions of willing followers. Adolf Hitler is an excellent example.

Normally humans have built in radar against evil people. When you are in the presence of an evil person you will get a shaky creepy feeling and want to run for your life. When you are in the presence of an angel person you will feel a warm glow.

well i must call it a night now folks.and till we meet again be safe and lock your doors and windows just incase the evil one appears!

Friday, 26 February 2010

mumbai dreams

refugee tv

Had an interesting but long day at our voluntary meeting today.Nearly completed our filming with most of the asylum seekers today.felt new,just listening to the very stories i have been listening to from almost all of them the past 3 wks.But today behind a camera,in a quiet room with just the talker and a room full of sensitive listeners felt different.Very heartbreaking.iIthink the British medias views on asylum seekers seriously needs to become more lateral.I think the entire issue on asylum seekers and immigrants needs to change and has been looked at in a very tunnel-visioned point of view.These are not your hard-core gangsters or criminals,seeking to hide in some foreign country just waiting to jump over the governments precious millions like a pack of wolves!These are people who have led an extremely troubled life,some even escaping political persecution in their homelands.Some escaping war,and some worse.My question is if the world shuts their doors to these people where are they supposed to go.The united kingdom hands out millions to people or should i say the so called honorable British citizens by birth for not been employed and producing children like hot cakes!,who believe that it is their birth rite to have the government look after them.Isn't that total injustice being committed.Not only is the government adding to its own problems by catering to this breed of lazy people but its preventing new lessons to be passed on to the future generation of this country.After all children only reflect back your own image!Not only is this breed feeding of the governments money like a bunch of hungry blood-sucking parasites but influencing the vulnerable minds of the future generation as well.All i can do for now is hope that my groups attempt doesn't fail and if not 10 but we can at least touch the heart of 1!

Saturday, 20 February 2010

movies and the magic they call cinema

sorry blog!have been busy the past couple of days.had a lovely time with my brother and gorgeous nephew.went to the movies.we watched mnik.i now understand the media hype behind the movies release.it truly was a heart warming film with brilliant performances by the entire cast especially king khan!hopefully the shiv sena and mns realize that there are certain things in life that stretch beyond borders and music ,cinema and art transcend everything!

Wednesday, 17 February 2010

life

Hey Friends,

This time it’s a Goan story for a change and not a Chinese one… :)

A boat docked in a tiny Goan village. A tourist from Mumbai (Mumbaite) complimented the Goan fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

“Not very long,” answered the fisherman.

“But then, why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?” asked the Mumbaite.

The Goan fisherman explained that his small catch was Sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The Mumbaite asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?”

“I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, play guitar, sing a few songs… I have a full life.”

The Mumbaite interrupted, “I have an MBA from IIM-A, and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat.”

“And after that?” asked the Goan.

“With the extra money The larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to Panjim, or even Mumbai. From there you can direct your huge new enterprise.”

“How long would that take?” asked the Goan.

“Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years,” replied the Mumbaite.

“And after that?”

“Afterwards? Well my Friend, That’s when it gets really interesting,” chuckled the Mumbaite, “When your business gets really big, you can start selling stocks and make millions!”

“Millions? Really? And after that?” asked the Goan.

“After that you’ll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, Sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings doing what you like with your buddies.”

“With all due respect sir, but that’s exactly what I am doing now. So what’s the point wasting 25 Years?” asked the Goan. And the moral of the story is? Know where you’re going in life. You may already be there.

Life in the present world is indeed a rat race. Many who have good qualifications too do not know where they are going in life.

Had a late night yesterday.but it was fun.kept up most of the night watching Ndtvs big fight along with we the people.i must say that Vikram Chandra has got great charisma.and an amazing connection with the audience.some of the arguments were extremely thought provoking.the one that held my attention a great deal was the debate over the recent uproar in Mumbai following Srk and Rahul Gandhis comments on including pak players in the ipl.i cant say if i support any of them completely.both parties somehow make valid arguments.but the only path the sena and mns have chosen to implement their stand is wrong.after-all we Indians are known to always choose the path of non-violence.i do hope that mumbai and the rest of India however realize that we need to recognize our real enemy which is not the "marathi manoos"or the "biharis" in up,but the terrorist that vow to destroy our peace,economy and democracy for which India is so proud of.jai hind!

Tuesday, 16 February 2010

mom,dad and holidays

mom and dad will be visiting next month.so i have to hurry and pay the old man the deposit for the holiday apartment asap.i am so thrilled that they will be visiting.makes me nostalgic to think of that fact.reminds me of the times we used to travel on holidays as a family.its a sad truth of life.that as children grow older they move away from the loving protective homes of their parents.

Monday, 15 February 2010

pune terror attack

India is a vast country and Indian security forces or police cannot provide security to all people in each corner of the country. This is a bitter truth which every Indian must admit. We are fortunate enough that terrorists are active and conducting terror attacks in metros and big towns only. If they start using small towns, cities and village as their target for attack, I guess India’s security arrangement will get punctured and prove to be hollow, incompetent , inadequate to deal with highly equipped , trained and funded terrorists.i think the problem lies within our countrys political systems.or do we even have one!i think the thackeray familys concern should not be bollywood or if anyonehas pronounced the city mumbai as bombay or viceversa,but enhancing our security systems.instead of posting the police force around marine drive making sure couples dont get up to "hanky panky"business why cant they put a ban on the tobbacoo industry.i think the politicans priorities are all out of order.should we the youth of india help them put in back in place?can we please start with making sure we dont just allow anyone "else"into our country along with tourist.

the mayyonaise jar.post from big b blog i loved somuch


When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle,
When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class
and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar
And proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured
them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively
filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things - family,
children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions
Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else –The small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ He continued,
there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,
You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So…

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play With your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

‘Take care of the golf balls first –
The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled.
‘I’m glad you asked’.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’

Please share this with other “Golf Balls”
I just did……

monday mornings

its been a quiet and very cold morning.have been thinking of helping myself to a hot cup of chai!and as we speak it has just started raining.couldnt have asked for better ambience!rain,chai and good music!

Sunday, 14 February 2010

the birth of a new blog!

wow!feels great having created something.even if its just a blog!i think this would certainly beat those winter blues.

winter blues